Client Stories

Is Dating Evolved as good as we say it is? Don’t take our word for it – Check out our recent client success stories.

Adele Needham, 60,
Retired Emergency Planning Manager,
Exeter

Going through the Dating Evolved Group Program has been a game changer for Adele. It’s been a massive confidence boost and she learned how to focus on finding a man who has what it takes to make her happy. And now she has – she’s in a relationship with a wonderful guy!

 

Where was she before the Dating Evolved program?

Following one dysfunctional relationship (with a man she realised, when she went through the program, that he’d been Dark Triad), Adele had been single for several years, despite being very busy with lots of sporting interests and a wide circle of friends. She felt there probably weren’t any decent men out there and she’d become despondent and almost resigned to the fact that she wouldn’t find anyone good. Her friends assumed she was happy on her own.

And after the program?

Adele was amazed at how much she learned from the Dating Evolved program and how much support and encouragement she got from the other ladies in her group. She learned about what she could compromise on and what her real dealbreakers were. But the big game changer was learning to do online dating successfully! That's how she met Paul, who’s lovely, and very very different from anyone else she’s been with. He makes her feel special, they have fantastic fun together, and she knows that she’s got someone looking out for her. Life has totally changed for the better.

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Adele Needham, 60,
Retired Emergency Planning Manager,
Exeter

Katy Gordon, 56,
Careers Director, Southampton.

The Dating Evolved program gave Katy the tools and the confidence, and the other ladies in her group gave her the inspiration and motivation to keep going until she found her man. Best money she’s ever spent, she says!

 

Where was she before the Dating Evolved program?

Despairing! She’d got into a pattern of having relationships with unsuitable men. She was addicted to the excitement of seeing these guys but she knew they weren’t good long-term prospects. She’d kept repeating that pattern, never feeling like she’d ever meet a man she could have the kind of relationship she wanted with. She didn’t believe men wanted to be with her for “herself”. She had low self-esteem around relationships even though she comes across confidently in most areas of life.

And after the program?

Learning the science, Katy said, was key to opening up her mind, and understanding how the unsuitable men seem disproportionately represented out there. She learned to be confident in her own individual quirks and unique qualities. Finally she believed she could find a good guy that she also desired, but that she needed to be proactive to make it happen.
And happen it did. A guy asked her out on a Meetup walking group – he said he couldn’t bear the idea of never seeing her again. And now they’re an item! They’ve gone on a couple of holidays together and are having a great time. Life is good, and Katy says she couldn’t have got there without having been through the Dating Evolved program.

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Katy Gordon, 56,
Careers Director, Southampton.

Laraine Irvine, 55
Personal Assistant,
London

"Going through the Dating Evolved program (Phase 1 so far) and knowing that I'm not alone on this journey has had a huge impact on my whole attitude. I find myself walking down the street with my head held high, looking at people and smiling at them instead of shying away. I'm sleeping better, getting up earlier, excited to start my day."

 

Where was she before the Dating Evolved program?

Laraine had been on her own for a long time and she’d got to the stage where she thought a good relationship would never happen for her. She was exhausted and dejected with the whole process of dating and the dating apps terrified her. She found she wasn’t attracted to the right guys and felt destined to be alone. She heard friends talking about their own success stories and Laraine felt there must be something wrong with her. She’d given up.

And after the program?

The Dating Evolved program has got Laraine’s dating mojo back! She feels positive and is loving life again and confident to show her true self out in the world. She’s learned so much about herself, and now she knows what she needs to find in a man she can be happy with. The one-to-one consultation with Mairi and the dating profile review were game changers, and now she’s finding online dating easy and fun. She knows her group-mates have got her back, they’ll be life-long friends, and their weekly chats keep her motivated and moving forwards. Laraine has a new zest for life, and she’s going to live her life to the full until the right person comes along – because she knows he will do. The program has armed her with the right tools!

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Laraine Irvine, 55
Personal Assistant,
London

Susan James, 65
Retired Midwife

After Susan had her first date with Tony she realised she’d been smiling and laughing for the whole time she was with him. Over a year later they’ve set up a home together and they’re still smiling, laughing, and having a wonderful time.

 

Where was she before the Dating Evolved program?

Susan had been widowed for a few years and during lockdown she found herself spending a lot of time on her own and feeling pretty lonely. She wanted to meet someone new but lacked self confidence around online dating and meeting new men. She was worried about being too old for dating, but around the time of starting on the Dating Evolved program she met a new man who swept her off her feet, only to drop her suddenly, making her feel really let down.

And after the program?

As Susan was going through the program she learned about personality and attachment styles and was able to identify that the guy she’d been seeing was an avoidant narcissist – a fairly toxic combo! She learned so much about herself and what she really needed in a man. So with that in mind, and after broadening her online dating parameters – age range and location - she quickly met Tony and hasn’t looked back. They’ve been on lots of lovely holidays together, their families have meshed well and now they’re renovating their new home together. Susan’s meeting new people, doing new things, going to new places and life is fabulous.

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Susan Reason, 65
Retired Midwife

Jane McLellan, 58
Finance Manager
Windsor

"I REALLY enjoy the interaction from the wonderful women in the Dating Evolved community. I think if I'd had this group sooner, I'd have steered clear of some of my disastrous encounters!
Now I'm with a lovely man and am SO very lucky to have him in my life"


Where was she before the Dating Evolved program?

Jane was giving online dating a go, but she was seriously restricting her options by requiring numerous boxes to be ticked – like location, height, and a love of skiing, cycling and running – things that aren’t vital for a good relationship! Relationships in the past didn’t go well because she was attracted to certain sorts of men she now knows were narcissists.

And after the program?

Learning about the Dark Triad (which includes narcissism) and coming to understand her “needs” vs her “wants” wrt relationships was a game changer for Jane, and she’s now together with a wonderful man who’s shorter than her and doesn’t ski, but she feels so well looked after, and SO lucky to have him in her life. They’re into their second year as a couple and love their time together.

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Jane McLellan, 58
Finance Manager
Windsor

Jane McLellan, 58
Finance Manager
Windsor

“The Dating Evolved Program has taught me to take off the blinkers! That means getting wise about noticing the qualities that really matter in guys, and spotting red flags. But it also means widening your field of view. That’s what I’ve done and I’m now with a lovely guy. It’s so nice having someone in my life!”

 

Where was she before the Dating Evolved program?

Jenny was feeling totally disillusioned with dating – particularly online dating – having been messed around and hurt by guys ghosting her and playing games. She was focussing too much on superficially attractive traits in men with the result that she wasn’t meeting men who were good relationship material.

And after the program?

Through the Dating Evolved course Jenny learned about the really important qualities to go for in a man for a happy lasting relationship. And one of the biggest eureka moments was coming to the understanding that the “spark” at the start really doesn’t matter, and the “slow burn” is the way to find a quality connection. Her relationship is a “work in progress” and she’s really happy to be on this journey.

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Jenny Williams, 54
Fundraising Manager, Edinburgh

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“I have met the love of my life – my soul mate”

“I’ve recently completed the 7 weeks of the Dating Evolved program and it has been absolutely phenomenal!

 

Before starting I’d been on my own for 9 years and had had some bad relationship experiences, so I was very short on confidence and didn’t really know how to approach dating. This program has completely flipped it on its head!

 

The program completely delivered on its promises and way beyond. This wasn’t just because of Mairi’s fascinating and incredibly useful advice in the modules and the individual attention she gave, but also because of the fantastic group of women taking part. Each week during the live sessions we had lots of time for discussion and breakout rooms, as well as meeting up online independently too. We’re keeping each other encouraged and accountable and I’m looking forward to keeping up with this as we have our ongoing monthly group calls.

 

I didn’t believe I’d actually be getting myself out and dating interesting men – but I am! And armed with advice from Mairi’s science-based course I’ve had a great deal of fun starting my dating journey and putting everything from the program into practice.

 

The result was that after speaking with quite a few men and dating a couple, by being open about the type of person I was looking for (instead of my previous list of requirements), I can honestly say I have met the love of my life – my soul mate and it really is all down to what I’ve learned on this program.

 

Thank you Mairi – Your program gave me the confidence to stop worrying about so many things and to just relax and take the first step into the journey with an open mind and an open heart. I have never been so happy x”

 

- Nancy Harvey, 52,
Procurement Manager

“I’m currently seeing a lovely man”

“Before going through the Dating Evolved Program my biggest dating challenges were around feeling like all the decent men were already attached and that the ones I found on dating sites were wholly incompatible with me. Dating Evolved has helped me take a deeper dive approach into the whole dating scene – instead of generalising based on the few bad experiences I’ve had. I came to realise there would be good guys out there, I just needed to find them!

 

The Dating Evolved Program has given me a real turnaround in my mindset. I have now acknowledged my “wants” are different to my “needs” and understand that I’ve been attaching far too much importance to initial attraction. This has equipped me to be much better at finding the man I need and recognising those that I really don’t.

 

Understanding the significance of “mate value” has been an epiphany, and the course has also taught me about my own tendencies regarding attachment styles and given me strategies to deal with those of my partner. All the theory we’ve learned in the program makes such good sense and has meant I’ve been able to search more effectively, open up more opportunities and more chances of success.

 

The course has taught me how to actually desire the man I need, rather than simply relying on chemistry, and I’m putting the advice into practice! I’m currently seeing a lovely man with whom I have lots in common and who ticks many of my ’need’ boxes. We are both allowing our relationship to mature naturally, nothing rushed, seeing where it goes and simply enjoying the journey. Even if he doesn’t end up being ‘the one’ I am assured the experience will prove valuable. Throughout the program and beyond I have learned so much more about my needs; the program also made me realise I need to give new relationships a chance and go looking for that wow factor which may not be immediately apparent.

 

I would so recommend this program! The sessions were perfectly structured and there always seemed to be plenty of opportunities for everyone in the group to say what they needed and receive feedback. Mairi struck a really good balance and made a point of addressing every point we raised. I especially liked the fact that it’s all grounded in peer-reviewed science and whenever I tell women about the program it’s the science that I rave about most of all!

 

If you are seriously wanting to find success at dating then you should sign up for this program, I did and have absolutely no regrets.”

 

- Shona Hotson, 59
IT Project Manager in Financial Services

“Now I know exactly how to spot the men who are no good for me”

“Mairi’s course has been brilliant! It’s shown me where I’ve gone wrong in the past and given me the confidence to know that I can make the right choice to achieve a happy and healthy relationship in the future.

 

The modules on “Personality” and “Attachment” were especially useful for me. I have always gone for the bad boy and seem to attract narcissists and so now I know exactly how to spot the men who are no good for me and how to find and attract a guy for a secure relationship. The bonus modules were also great and really added value.

 

I thoroughly enjoyed the Dating Evolved course and looked forward to each Saturday morning session. It was great meeting the other women and being able to share experiences. I loved it! Thank you Mairi for an excellent course, one I would highly recommend!”

 

- Susan Chambers, 57,

“I am now dating a wonderful guy”

“Since attending the Dating Evolved course my approach to dating has totally changed. For example, I was never a fan of online dating sites, but armed with the tools from the course and support from Mairi and the ladies in our group I decided to take the plunge. I was able to quickly identify those men I needed to avoid and look for the true values and qualities I need in a man now I’m older. The course helped me look deeper into what I really wanted from a relationship.

 

As a result I am now dating a wonderful guy who in past would not have been on my radar. The key message Mairi makes is important: “Does this man have what it takes to make you happy?” So far the answer is a definite yes!

 

I thoroughly enjoyed this course and would recommend it very highly indeed. Mairi was fully invested in each and every one of us on the course and her style is very open and inclusive, making it easy to share as little or as much as you wish. I only wish I had done it earlier and I think so many ladies could benefit from this course!  ”

 

- Adele Needham, 60
Retired Emergency Planning Manager

“10 weeks in we’re still together and very much in love!”

“Armed with Mairi’s advice I signed up to an online dating site and did pretty much what she suggested and I was amazed – all these men came back to me wanting a date and there was one I really plugged into, we met up and it was fabulous – such a great place to be and so different from my usual experience.

 

Now, 10 weeks in we’re still together and very much in love! We’ve already jumped through a couple of hoops. I’ve come to realise that it is not all a bed of roses but there is a real new kind of joy in getting through difficult bits and seeing the other person and myself with fresh eyes. I am profoundly grateful to have found someone who is willing to go on a journey with me. I think the basic humanity of a real relationship has touched me to my core. A bit scary but depth of it brings passion, kindness and insight. There are some fantastic rewards!”

 

I want to thank you Mairi for giving me the new perspective on love that has allowed this to happen for me. Just goes to show that love can happen if we allow it!”

 

- Jane Rayner, 54,
NHS Nurse

“(Mairi) has given me the tools and confidence to identify, find, attract and desire the man I need”

“I have absolutely loved Mairi’s Dating Evolved course. She has a great balance: very informative, very relevant, honest, sincere and kept light with fun and laughter, and I really enjoyed sharing experiences with the other attendees.

 

Mairi has very cleverly shown me a clear pathway to finding out what I need, how to avoid what I don't need and how to go about finding a man who I can have a great relationship with. Through sharing a wealth of knowledge in evolutionary biology and psychology, delivered in a very gentle, quite beautiful and extremely professional way, she has given me the tools and confidence to identify, find, attract and desire the man I need!”

 

- Nicki W, 62,
Assistant Manager Life Sciences Resource Centre

“I am enjoying getting to know a good man”

“Prior to Mairi's course I had been hoping that life would somehow bring me a man to love, but I had been alone for most of the past 20 years. There was no one moment that I thought " Oh yes, I really get it now" but rather a slow drip drip of knowledge and clarity. After the course I think I could have slipped into inaction had it not been for the ongoing monthly support group – which has proved transformational.

 

Thank you to Mairi and all the dear ladies in my group who encouraged me and led by example. I eventually signed up to online dating for the first time ever. I had plenty of likes which was a huge boost to my confidence and some nice chats (yes along with some obvious catfishing). One of my likes from the first day or so online has developed into the start of what could be a lovely relationship. I am enjoying getting to know a good man and if I feel reassured that I can attract the right guy. Either this one or another ... there are so many men online! I don't think I could have made this progress without having done the Dating Evolved course and ongoing monthly support group.”

 

- Flora Keevil

“I feel 100% more able and ready to take on the dating world”

“The Dating Evolved program is a must for any woman of a certain age who is looking for a partner. The world of dating is mainly online which can be a confusing and sometimes murky place where the process of meeting and matching with a “good” man has become exponentially more tricky! This is where Mairi and her Dating Evolved program comes in!

 

My experience of the program was that it brought light and clarity with the new (scientific) information plus practical advice to help me navigate this new dating world! The modules on attachment and personality really helped me to think differently about potential matches. I feel I have become more sophisticated in the art of identifying and responding to the little red flags that the not-so-good guys and early on vs. being patient and curious with those matches who weren’t immediately my type or 100% attractive to me at first. As I now realise, the really good guys often get overlooked! They are out there, as Mairi keeps reminding us and she can vouch for that!!

 

The module on online dating was particularly useful and it fast-forwarded me into 21st century dating! My biggest challenge has been in using dating apps, and the program has helped to dispel the negative connotations most older women have around this.

 

I loved the fact that Mairi’s dating advice is grounded in peer-reviewed science – I find it hugely interesting and the information provides valuable insight into what is happening in society now. The science, combined with Mairi’s personal approach and readiness to discuss her own relationship experiences makes for a powerful combination, and really raises the game above other dating advice out there.

 

Last but not least, by far, was the power of the group in this program. We were a smallish group of lovely women all learning together and supporting one another absolutely all the way, led by Mairi’s super caring approach.

 

Now at the end of the course, I feel 100% more able and ready to take on the dating world, online and beyond! I am confident I will find love out there as I face the challenge with the knowledge I need and my dating evolved friends who are there to support, encourage and celebrate with me when it does finally happen…..and it will!

 

I would strongly recommend anyone who is serious about finding a partner at a later stage of life to sign up to do the Dating Evolved program with Mairi. It will fast-forward your process and significantly increase your chances of happiness with that special someone……so why not!!” ”

 

- Claire Robertson, 62,
Mental Health Professional

“Knowing that I'm not alone on this journey has had a huge impact on my whole attitude”

 

“I would highly recommend the Dating Evolved Group Program to anyone who has felt online dating to be challenging and exhausting. I was one of those people who just thought it would never happen for them but, since doing this program, it has completely changed my whole outlook and opened my mind. I love being part of my group, and having that support from the other ladies and hearing all their updates! Knowing that I'm not alone on this journey has had a huge impact on my whole attitude. I find myself walking down the street with my head held high, looking at people and smiling at them instead of shying away. I'm sleeping better, getting up earlier, excited to start my day.

 

I feel happier and more confident not just in myself, but in knowing the difference between my 'wants' and 'needs' and my 'dealbreakers' which has opened up my preferences on the dating apps. I've learned that my core values matter, and I shouldn't hide behind them because if I don't show my true self, then I won't meet the right man for me and will continue going from date to date, feeling rejected and disappointed.

 

I'm no student, but I actually found myself wanting to listen to the weekly modules, and writing in my workbook, which I still find myself referring back to!

 

Getting your profile right is so important to attract the right type of men, and Mairi's input is invaluable.....you have no idea how much until you see what she does with it!

 

I am genuinely excited about dating for the first time in a long time, and it's all thanks to this program.”

 

- Laraine Irvine, 55,
Personal Assistant

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