I recently recorded an interview with marital therapist Andrew G Marshall for his podcast "The Meaningful Life".

Have a listen to find out:

- how to build your confidence around dating

- how to spot the kind of guy who would be good for a relationship

- how to avoid getting smitten with a guy...

*This article first appeared on NOON.

It used to be so easy didn’t it – sex and relationships? Back in the days of being 20-something there was such a choice of men. If you fell out of one relationship you could just fall right into another.

Back then the world was my oyster. I was a...

Are you always the one who’s doing her best to make sure everyone else is happy and comfortable?

Do you like to find consensus rather than impose your opinion on others?

Are you good at providing sympathy to a friend in need?

Some would say you’re a “people pleaser”...

Have you been talking yourself out of finding love?

It’s easy to find a multitude of excuses as to why we can’t find a decent man and so maybe we should just give up.

You might have come to the conclusion that actually you’re better off on your own. You’re far too busy to...

I must admit I get a bit mad when I hear the phrase, 

“If it’s meant to be, it will be”.

Or as they say here in Scotland: 

“What’s for you won’t go by you”.

It's very convenient, isn't it? It takes responsibility out of...

Among the most common types of questions I get asked by women over 50 looking to find a man are –

“Am I too independent to attract a man?"

"Are qualities like independence, strength, intelligence a turn-off for men?”

It’s a pretty frustrating thought –...

I was recently interviewed by James Preece for his podcast - the Love Machine. 

Have a listen to find out:

*A version of this article first appeared in the Independent on 30 August 2021

As I perch amongst a clump of Isoglossa stems I train my binoculars on a female samango monkey I’ve named Pica. I’ve followed her through the forest, a long way from the rest of her troop, and now...

If I asked you “what are the most important attributes to pay attention to when picking a partner?”, what would you say?

A great sense of humour maybe? Kindness? Honesty? A bulging bank-balance perhaps?

Whatever it is, it’s unlikely to be what gives you the hots for a guy when...

I meet so many women in midlife who are completely sorted. They’re gorgeous, they’re fit and healthy, they’ve got successful careers, they’re independent and know how to do all the things.

But they can’t find a man – at least not one that meets their standards....

We’ve all come across women who pretend to have the intellect of a 4 year-old child and have men eating out of their hand.

Just think of Marilyn Monroe. She was a highly intelligent woman, but still decided to sing “happy birthday Mr President” in her 1964 Madison Square Gardens...

I think you’ll agree – we women in our 40s, 50s, 60s and beyond are more sorted than ever.

We’ve got our careers and we’re usually earning our own money, often plenty of it. We know what we like and we know how to go and get it.

We’re independent, successful women.

...