I must admit I get a bit mad when I hear the phrase, 

“If it’s meant to be, it will be”.

Or as they say here in Scotland: 

“What’s for you won’t go by you”.

It's very convenient, isn't it? It takes responsibility out of...

Are you always the one who’s doing her best to make sure everyone else is happy and comfortable?

Do you like to find consensus rather than impose your opinion on others?

Are you good at providing sympathy to a friend in need?

Some would say you’re a “people pleaser”...

Have you been talking yourself out of finding love?

It’s easy to find a multitude of excuses as to why we can’t find a decent man and so maybe we should just give up.

You might have come to the conclusion that actually you’re better off on your own. You’re far too busy to...

You know how it goes… you walk into the bar to meet your date, and there he is sitting at a table, looking super-confident and at ease. He looks up and spots you, and his face lights up with a wide, gorgeous smile. There’s a glass of champagne already waiting at your place, you sit...

Do you find yourself bored to death on first dates?

Or maybe it’s not quite that bad, but the conversation isn’t exactly setting the place on fire, and frankly, neither of you are particularly inspired to repeat the performance?

It may well be that you need to learn to “really...

Hint: It means not doing what the apps tell you to do

Are you doing online dating?  If so, good on you! 

It's a great way to bump up the number of potentially good men you come into contact with, which obviously increases your chances of finding a great partner.

But don't rely...

The day I arrived to live in Edinburgh was, I think, the worst day of my life.

Don’t get me wrong – I totally love this city, and it’s one of the best places in the world to live. It just didn’t get off to the best start for me.

The thing is, on that day I was escaping...

One of my early Group Program clients – let’s call her Sarah - came to me after a long string of disastrous encounters with unsuitable men.

In common with a lot of us, she had a very definite picture of the kind of man she wanted: He was tall and handsome, reasonably solvent, worldly...

A question I get asked a lot and one that came up in a recent call with a group of my clients going through the Dating Evolved program is the issue of whether it’s ok to fib a bit about our age on our online dating profile.

Frustrating but true: Hetero men online tend to set the...

I recently recorded an interview with marital therapist Andrew G Marshall for his podcast "The Meaningful Life".

Have a listen to find out:

- how to build your confidence around dating

- how to spot the kind of guy who would be good for a relationship

- how to avoid getting smitten with a guy...

*This article first appeared on NOON.

It used to be so easy didn’t it – sex and relationships? Back in the days of being 20-something there was such a choice of men. If you fell out of one relationship you could just fall right into another.

Back then the world was my oyster. I was a...

Among the most common types of questions I get asked by women over 50 looking to find a man are –

“Am I too independent to attract a man?"

"Are qualities like independence, strength, intelligence a turn-off for men?”

It’s a pretty frustrating thought –...