Are you always the one who’s doing her best to make sure everyone else is happy and comfortable?

Do you like to find consensus rather than impose your opinion on others?

Are you good at providing sympathy to a friend in need?

Some would say you’re a “people pleaser”...

*A version of this article first appeared in the Independent on 30 August 2021

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